Are my relationships safe?

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Make a change for yourself…make a change for the better

Trusting, honest and respectful relationships of all kinds are healthier for you.
You should never feel scared, humiliated or controlled.
Physical violence can cause serious injuries and possibly disability.
Emotional harm can cause panic attacks, anxiety, depression and trouble sleeping.
Healthy, safe relationships make life happier.

Ever feel guilty about having your own friends and own interests?
Often feel pressured to spend time with your boyfriend/girlfriend when you’d rather do something else?
Keep opinions or concerns to yourself to make things easier?
Change your behavior to avoid fighting with your boyfriend/girlfriend?

Call you names and put you down?
Get jealous if others pay attention to you?
Try to control your behavior - checking up on you, calling or testing excessively?
Complains about and/or controls what you wear?
Push you to do things you aren’t sure you want to (like sex, drugs)?
Does your partner violently lose his/her temper and break things?

Do you see yourself doing any of these behaviors? If you think you are abusive, talk to someone or seek counseling.
If you are unhappy and uncomfortable, consider is this relationship worth it?
Talk to trusted friends or family members.
If you feel you are in an abusive relationship get help. Talk to your health care provider or contact National Domestic Violence hotline, 1-800-799-7233. Call the Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN), 1-800-656-HOPE, to be routed to a rape crisis center near you if you have been sexually assaulted.
If you live with an abusive partner, have a safety plan - see below.

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